Forgiveness

Ed note: Forgiveness is another action that sustains a man's life, and without it he becomes embittered by life. -Pst. Godman Akinlabi 

When a man is hurt or bitter, it is as though his mind is shielded from everything that's good in life. At the point, he finds it difficult to appreciate anything good and the only energy he'd be radiating would be 'hardness'.

'This could be witnessed in say a man who refuses to forgive his spouse and in the process becomes bitter and oblivious to all the good things in his marriage. He shuts himself out on everything and everyone, and in the process offers himself nothing but disservice'.

Although i'm not married yet, i've witnessed people live bitterly prior to an awful decision, and i can tell that it's one of the regrettable-errors to be made by anyone.

The irony of forgiveness is that it prevents one from receiving and accepting forgiveness in return as at when due. A quick look at our Lord's prayer explains it better, "forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us". In other words, you can't get grace if you don't extend grace to others -it's that simple.

In the light of the truth, you can get angry or choose to express your disappointment, however, "be angry but don't sin". That is, express your displeasure without seeking to draw blood from the other person.

Although, it's humanly to want to take revenge, but for every disagreement you have a choice to either throw-caution-to-the-wind or end it on the spot.

Just as you're not less a man if you choose to express your disappointment in a thing or someone, offering a sacrifice of peace doesn't make you a coward either. In fact, it makes you a better man and reveals how strong you are in dealing with matters generally. Also, it further speaks of the better man that is on your inside, and this you need show more often.

N.B: Everyone can get angry and destroy what's been built over the years, but that doesn't have to be you.

Choose right, Live right!!!

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The cry of a broken-hearted

The cry of a broken-hearted

You must have listened to lyrics such as "where do broken-hearts go ?" Or "the other side of love".
All the same, an average human had crossed this bridge at some point in life.

I was once a student of love, learnt all I could learn and thought to myself that I would do everything possible to make the best out of every person who came my way.
As my definition of a proper relational engagement is to become a better you after having encountered the one who you dim fit to become your sort after.

Until I got myself engaged in the real business of relationship, I really did not understand the meaning to the saying "easier said than done". But all in all, I figured going into a relationship is more of a calculated risk. You sure could tell what you stand to gain and lose at the same time.

There is no true relationship without respect, trust, and love.
As you cannot possibly love wholeheartedly who you neither trust, nor respect.
Love is in direct relation to trust and respect, outside of this all you get is hurt and tolerance.

If you would not become a better you prior to your relating with a particular individual, then there is no use to start what would eventually lead to hurt and heartache.

Get it right, Get it mended.

I once wrote:

All I have ever got in return from you was disrespect, insincerity, lies, misplaced trust, and heartache. You painted me black, as though you were the outright saint that you preached.
Even when I tried so hard to make US better, you never stopped to rub dirt on our faces.
Your were so attached to your morphological features that you allowed other parts of you suffer physiologically, emotionally, academically, and most of all spiritually.

Thought you needed help, now I figured you do not even want to be helped.
You take everything with levity, but take pleasure in frivolities. Respect, Sincerity &Trust definitely happens to not be in ur dictionary.

Hope it does not take forever before you realise you are headed towards emotional doom, which transcends into physical doom. For by then, it would be too much for you to bear.

Farewell, my heartache.