Forgiveness

Ed note: Forgiveness is another action that sustains a man's life, and without it he becomes embittered by life. -Pst. Godman Akinlabi 

When a man is hurt or bitter, it is as though his mind is shielded from everything that's good in life. At the point, he finds it difficult to appreciate anything good and the only energy he'd be radiating would be 'hardness'.

'This could be witnessed in say a man who refuses to forgive his spouse and in the process becomes bitter and oblivious to all the good things in his marriage. He shuts himself out on everything and everyone, and in the process offers himself nothing but disservice'.

Although i'm not married yet, i've witnessed people live bitterly prior to an awful decision, and i can tell that it's one of the regrettable-errors to be made by anyone.

The irony of forgiveness is that it prevents one from receiving and accepting forgiveness in return as at when due. A quick look at our Lord's prayer explains it better, "forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us". In other words, you can't get grace if you don't extend grace to others -it's that simple.

In the light of the truth, you can get angry or choose to express your disappointment, however, "be angry but don't sin". That is, express your displeasure without seeking to draw blood from the other person.

Although, it's humanly to want to take revenge, but for every disagreement you have a choice to either throw-caution-to-the-wind or end it on the spot.

Just as you're not less a man if you choose to express your disappointment in a thing or someone, offering a sacrifice of peace doesn't make you a coward either. In fact, it makes you a better man and reveals how strong you are in dealing with matters generally. Also, it further speaks of the better man that is on your inside, and this you need show more often.

N.B: Everyone can get angry and destroy what's been built over the years, but that doesn't have to be you.

Choose right, Live right!!!

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Mar-ri-ness

Mar-ri-ness

The fact that I write about marriage does not mean I have had a first-hand experience of the union in anyway. Instead, it is as a result of several observations made from the little world that revolves around me -from my parent's, to my sibling's, colleagues', and through the knowledge amassed from various authors of best selling books. Not forgetting seminars and endless discussions with friends and mentors across board.

Though the understanding of marriage varies in proportion to varying cultural practices, believes and philosophies, It is still principally an institution of interpersonal relationship between similar entities. It is believed that before such huge step is considered, some level of understanding must have been  established successfully, without any of the two parties involved expressing discomfort or dissatisfaction.

The reason "why one marries is as important as who to marry and the happiness of such person thereafter".
For true happiness is too-often-than-none, dependent on what choices you make and who you make such choices with.
Happiness, love, insurance, and hope, does not come from the outside or by chance, but by a conscious effort to provoke such experience in one's life. One of my mentors once said "when you are consciously 'grateful' for a cause, it will never go wrong. Instead it will be replicated and spread across board" ~ Poju Oyemade.

I am hit with mixed feelings each time I consider the level of moral decadence in our present day society, and I cannot help but fear what the future holds for us all if this persists.
One of my greatest fear is to live in discomfort and dissatisfied for the rest of my life, and since divorce is not an option, and living in what one would call a-hell-of-a-relationship isn't either, I find it paramount to be responsible for every decision I would ever make. Otherwise, the destruction of mind and character would be inevitable.

Success in marriage -just as in every other aspect of life- is not a function of how hard you try, but how smart you work. It lies in every decision you make, and in the choices that you can hardly ever take back.

God's vision for man is that we have life -and that- more abundantly, to subdue the earth and multiply exceedingly. As interesting as it might sound, it will never be achievable if one of the recognizable source of good life -even for the next generation- is dysfunctional and eventually defeated.

Albeit life could be challenging, with the right approach it is most definitely good.
Make the right choices, stand on it, and see it germinate.

Remember, life is everything and your perception. Man can only be limited in understanding by what he dims fit.
Choose right, live right.